As usual Shaunti delivered! I absolutely loved this book. It's full of common sense secrets that when put into action can truly change any marriage.
A large part of the reason I was so eager to read this book is because I wanted to know if these "secrets" were things I was already doing. I've often been stumped when people ask me why my marriage is good. I say things like we both have the same primary love language of quality time and we communicate very well. Really though it's been hard for me to figure why marriage is easier for us.
When I dove into this book and read what the research revealed I found out that Joe & I are doing most of the "secrets". Not all, but most of them are things we've been doing our whole marriage. For example in chapter three the secret is that happy couples believe the best of each other and assume that their spouse cares deeply for them. YES, we do that! Even when we legitimately hurt each other we refuse to believe it was an intended hurt and instead look for the most generous explanation.
Even after 15 very happy years of marriage I learned so much. Every married person should read this book. If you are interested in checking it out you can for free.